growing up my friends and l, during our girl talks would share info on how to be good at stuff sexually, like what to do to him so he can cum quickly, or how to give amazing blow jobs. l remember my best friend (she may deny right now), googled the nerve ending for men and found that the sweet spot is right below the balls. we had just discovered a way to make blow jobs more interesting, or so we thought.
we had another friend who was always horny. we would be seating outside, on our usual banter and this girl would just blurt out “damn l miss sex!” of course we looked at her some kind of way, like she was a freak or something. according to my best friend and l, sex was painful, we spent an hour or so after sex just sitting on warm water to ease the pain. l even fell asleep while at it once. we really did not understand what this girl was missing, getting turned on all the time. l mean we had some nice experiences but nothing to miss.
l’m not here to talk about how little effort guys make when it comes to sexual gratification of women, but how women can satisfy their needs after the one-minute man has had his turn, but your cookie still craves some action, and those nipples are still rock hard.
have you ever been in a situation where you feel like something is off about you, because you just can’t seem to get enough? it’s like this ninja is getting what he wants from you, the blow jobs, the nasty ass version of you, he seem happy, even gets you water and orders you food after wards but damn! he gives sloppy head; his fingers just go in and out and he successfully loses rhythm just when you say “right there”. annoying right?
this one is for the close-minded babes. trust me, it’s okay to put your fingers in there. I mean, how do you know where your g-spot is if you can’t even direct the lost fellow? I was surprised to learn that some women do not even know how their cookie looks like. ladies, take a mirror, open up those beautiful legs and say hello. fiddle with her a little bit and feel what makes her tingle and gets your perfectly manicured toes curl, there is no shame in getting to know yourself.
I’m very surprised that some women still cringe at the mention of sex toys. well, like they say, soko ni chafu. you cannot go around cheating on your man. I mean, you love him, right? his game is a little off, so if you can’t teach him, or expose your freaky version because he might judge, click on these amazing online stores and get you a partner that won’t judge. (he’ll probably run out of batteries, but that it). if you’re too churchy or self-righteous, your freaky secrets will be safe.
taking care of your needs does not have to be weird or grossed out, the problem with being in denial we tend to justify everything by trying to do things ‘the right way’ that it puts us at risk of making the wrong choices when the urges get uncontrollable. sex addiction is a thing and casual hook ups from guy to guy is not really advisable. so, when you feel your cookie give that throb and then gets a little wet, your nipples get a little hard in your bra and it’s been a minute since your world was rocked, try doing the rocking yourself.
being horny at work, at the gym or even while hanging with your girls is totally not weird. it actually means that you are very healthy. I know that at times you may speak about these urges to people who you feel would understand, but instead tend to judge, and make you feel like you are some sort of weirdo. understand that we are sexual beings and its okay to crave that touch. however, this is no excuse to tolerate bad sex. try talking to your man about it, teach him how to get to that spot and open up their mind to new ideas.
